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You’ve probably heard that the odds of getting pregnant are between 15% to 25% depending on multiple factors like age and some male and female health conditions. The younger and healthier the couple, the better their chance is of being in that 25% range.
Depending on a person’s perspective, 25% might sound like a good number. I always see it from a realistic point of view: if a couple tries 100 times, they only have 25 chances to make it happen, which means that 75 times it won’t happen. I know numbers are boring! But bear with me for a second; I’m going to make a point.
Let’s say they made it: one time out of those 25, the conditions were perfect and fertilization occurred. Yay!! That means everything was in perfect order. The egg was ready, and only one (in the majority of cases), sperm cell was able to penetrate the egg. Please keep in mind that there are between 40 million to 150 million sperm in one ejaculation. But only one is able to make it. So, let’s review the numbers again: in the best possible scenario, a couple has a 25% chance in one month to conceive a baby with only one out of 150 million sperm cells.
I have read about these statistics multiple times, because for a long time I was in the baby hungry stage. It is crazy that for so many years I took the pill to prevent a pregnancy, and then when I decided we were ready for it, I realized it is not actually our decision. Life is a miracle! I have read hundreds of scientific facts, and yes there a lot of ways science can help with fertilization, but at the end of the day, life is a precious miracle. If you do not agree with that, it is OK! We all have our own way to see things, but those odds I shared at the beginning speak volumes.
My fertility journey when I was married was both beautiful and stressful. When we started trying, the process was fun and full of hopes and amazing emotions. I read lots of books, articles, blogs… you name it. I changed our diet. I was all in about getting pregnant. When it didn’t happen like it was supposed to, I made an appointment to check if we were both OK. The fertility doctor put us through lots of different tests. After all those tests were completed, they told us everything was OK, but I had a little septum in my uterus that maybe was preventing conception. The solution to that was a surgery that obviously I went through.
The doctor told us after the surgery it might take up to six months to get pregnant. I told her we had been trying for three years, so I could wait six more months with no problem! And she was absolutely right about that timing. Six months after my surgery I got a positive pregnancy test! Well, actually I did seven home tests! We were beyond happy! We could not believe our eyes. But you know the rest of this story if you have read my previous posts. Six weeks later, I had a miscarriage. Thirty percent of pregnancies miscarry within three weeks of fertilization. That percentage drops as the weeks go by.
After we got divorced, I was still convinced I wanted to have a baby. I went to the same doctor and talked to her about my desire, and she explained to me everything I needed to do in order to go solo-style. That was a fun journey! I went to a website to find the perfect donor. My family and close friends supported me and enjoyed the whole process as much as I did. When all the tests were completed and the doctor was absolutely sure I was ready, I shot the hormones and got TWO perfect eggs ready to party. The day the procedure took place, the nurse told me, “Wow, you have two perfect eggs and the sperm you bought is the best sample I have ever seen in all my 25 years doing this.” Then she added, “Are you aware that with all this perfection you can get a multiple pregnancy?” I laughed and said, “I hope that happens!”
Well…. It didn’t happen. And that’s OK! I came to understand that my purpose in this beautiful life is a different one. ☺
Now, I told you all this to make a point. Let’s put these things together. There is a 25% chance to create a life that only happens with one out of 150 million sperm cells, and even when all that happens, there is a 30% chance the pregnancy will not make it to week four.
Can you read that and tell me you do not think life is a miracle?
Can you analyze the odds and not consider yourself a miracle?
We were all sent to this world with a purpose. We are all a miracle created by God himself. Sometimes our circumstances might make us think that we are not a big deal. But indeed, we are. We have defeated all those odds for a reason. Every single one of us has beaten the odds since the day we were created. Why would we let external circumstances make us think that we are less than a winner… a miracle?
Believe you are miracle! You have all you need within yourself to overcome all the odds in any given situation! You’ve been doing it since you left your daddy’s body! Do not let anything or anyone make you think otherwise! ☺
Love,
Irene
